Wise answers to perplexing questions
Dear Answer Lady I’ve got a major crush on a girl I work with. We’re not usually on the same shift, which is a good thing because I can hardly function when she’s around. I’d hate to ask her out and be stuck working with her if I’m rejected. Should I wait for this feeling to pass, or for one of us to get a different job? – Tongue-tied
You are in a quandary, young man. Not to add to the difficulty of your situation, but you may want to ask about the employee dating policy at your place of work. Most companies are pretty relaxed, but once in while you’ll find a company with strict policies, so keep that in mind. On the bright side, think of all the great couples in history who met at work – Antony and Cleopatra! Spencer Tracy and Katharine Hepburn! (Google them, if god forbid you don’t know who they are). Bonnie and Clyde! Okay, maybe Bonnie and Clyde are a bad example, but you get the Answer Lady’s gist. Go for it – if she shoots you down, get someone to switch with you if you’re working together. And remember: it’s only because the universe has someone better waiting for you.
Dear Answer Lady
I ran into my ex-boyfriend last week at the Martini Beach happy hour. Two days later I’m at dinner with my girlfriends at Hemingway’s and there he is. Last night I was picking up pizza at Blue Moon, and you guessed it – him again. No big deal, but he’s so rude to me! It didn’t end well between us, but shouldn’t he be nice when we inevitably run into one another? Cape May’s a small town! – His Ex
The Answer Lady’s first reaction is that you have way more disposable income than she does, but that’s immaterial. This IS a small town, and the Answer Lady’s credo is civility at all costs. It doesn’t sound like the gentleman is actually stalking you, rather that you share many of the same hang-outs. You could, in the interest of civility, vary your routine. Try happy hour at the Harbor View, dinner at Marie Nicole’s and pizza from Lucky Bones (get the prosciutto with arugula – OUTSTANDING). This may give your former beau time to get over the sting of your break-up, and he’ll treat you better. Or not.