Wise answers to perplexing questions
Dear Answer Lady
I’ve got the halfway-through-summer-and-I’m-so-stressed-I’m-gonna-kill-somebody blues. I’m working three jobs, the heat’s driving me crazy, and I can’t afford a vacation. What can I do to cheer up before I start running over tourists on rental bikes? – Crazy from the Heat
You poor dear – clearly you are in dire straits. The Answer Lady presumes that you are working three jobs because you have to, and will therefore not insult you by suggesting that you quit one of those jobs (unless of course you ARE in a position to do so, in which case, the Answer Lady beseeches you, on behalf of the fine area bike rental businesses, please quit one of those jobs). If that’s not possible, please seek the elusive happy medium. It would be lovely if we could flee to some far-flung destination at the first signs of stress, but our attitudes needn’t be vacation-or-bust. Treat yourself to small indulgences. It sounds clichéd, but a walk on the beach provides an excellent attitude adjustment – take one when you can. Grab an ice cream sundae from the Dry Dock between your work shifts, even if it’s only once a week. Pop into Good Scents for something soothing – incense, a candle, or some yummy body products to help you unwind. Or try the Answer Lady’s no-fail day-brightener: flowers. Visit Kate’s Flower Shop or Cape Winds at their new location, and get yourself a nosegay – it is happiness in a vase.
Dear Answer Lady
Life at the shore means I’m always the hostess and never the guest. Soon I’ll be staying with a relative for a week, and I need to brush up on my guest etiquette. Suggestions? – Shoe On the Other Foot
Some basics: despite insistence by your host or hostess to make yourself at home, this is not an invitation to parade around in your underwear, put your feet up on the furniture, or stay up with the television blasting long after your hosts have retired. Help with the dishes when dining at home, and if you can’t treat, then split the check when dining out. Your host should be made aware of any special food issues you may have, but this is not license to arrive with a fully-packed cooler of “your” food. Bring a small hostess gift when you arrive, or send one with a thank-you note after you’ve departed. In short, behave yourself!