Wise answers to perplexing question
The Answer Lady invites inquiries from gentle readers on all manners of relationship quandaries, matters of the heart, and ethics. If you’d like to send a query, write to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Dear Answer Lady
I read with interest your column last week about the woman who is overly attached to her cell phone. Not only do I not own a cell phone, I only use email at work, and I am not on Facebook. What do I say to well-meaning friends who continuously berate me for not being a part of the Facebook frenzy? – Happily Unplugged
The Answer Lady can relate, since she was dragged onto Facebook kicking and screaming. Certainly there are those who use Facebook to post each and every daily event or fleeting thought, no matter how mundane, i.e. – “just dropped Little Suzy off at day-care with Cheerios stuck to her dress – LOL!” This is not for the Answer Lady – she is quite convinced that the world does not need to know what is on her mind every second of the day. On the other hand, she has been able to reconnect with old friends and has seen the website utilized in such smart ways as the following – ‘two tickets to the Phillies tonight – can’t use – first phone call takes them.’ She has a Facebook friend who never fails to randomly post a link to an old, rare video of a great song, which has saved the Answer Lady from despair after a stressful day more than once. She has also been able to see photos posted from trips taken or parties she has been unable to attend. And let us not forget our friends at Exit Zero, who use Facebook not only to keep us informed of upcoming events but to give away cool prizes. There are plenty of privacy safeguards available, so if you want to remain un-pestered, you certainly have that option, and you don’t have to post anything, ever. So at least check it out – who knows who may be looking for you?
Dear Answer Lady
I recently attended a local theater production, and we were asked to turn off cell phones and refrain from recording the production. Well, you guessed it – the woman sitting next to me took pictures with her phone several times! I wanted to punch her in the face – have you ever heard of anything so uncivilized? – Indignant
The only thing the Answer Lady can think of that is less civilized than taking pictures at the theater would have to be punching someone in the face at the theater. For goodness sake, dear – get a hold of yourself (and an usher, next time).