Wise answers to perplexing questions
Dear Answer Lady
Thanksgiving is a couple weeks away and my wife is freaking out. We host both sides of our immediate family and she manages to work herself into a worse tizzy with each passing year. She does a great job with all the cleaning and cooking, so I don’t understand the drama. How do I handle her histrionics? – Tom Turkey
The Answer Lady has perused your letter quite thoroughly, and nowhere do you indicate what, exactly, YOU are doing to ease your wife’s burden. If you are not right there in the trenches with her, either helping to get the house ready – up to and including cleaning the bathroom and running the vacuum – and/or chopping veggies and stuffing a turkey, then you, sir, are barking up the wrong Answer Lady. Here’s a crazy idea: call Dustbusterz and arrange for them to get your house in tip-top shape a day or two prior to Turkey Day. Or, unless your wife is a complete and total control freak and will not relinquish whipping up her great-grandmother’s green bean casserole recipe without fail every single year, please give the Washington Inn a call for details about their Thanksgiving Dinner To–Go. There are plenty of people who thrive on drama and adrenaline, and your wife just may be one of them. If she won’t accept help from anyone, then just get the heck out of her way. But unless you’ve done everything you can think of to make things easier for her, you are not justified in complaining when she acts like a maniac.
Dear Answer Lady
We just moved our young family to Cape May this past year, and we had a blast over the summer – the kids were at the beach or on the promenade practically every day. They’re in school now, of course, but what the heck do we do with them when they’re not? – Mom & Dad
There is always something to do with kids in Cape May, and this time of year is no exception. Check out the Winter Wonderland festivities at Congress Hall, or visit the alpacas at Bay Springs Alpaca Farm (and get a jump start on your holiday shopping). Next week there’s an excellent family-friendly event, Harvest Day, at Hidden Valley Riding Center, which benefits an excellent cause. And don’t forget your local library and the Cape May County Zoo – they’re free and open year-round.